Always ask first or just simply refrain from posting about your relationship in general. We get that you want the world to know how amazing your significant other is, and that’s perfectly fine, but when you start posting too much and filling up your newsfeed with nonsense, don’t be surprised if you start to lose a few followers.
Here are 10 Things You Should Never Share About Your Relationship on Social Media
Your four month/ eight month/ 221-day anniversary
“Posting these ‘milestones’ to the cyber world makes it look like you’re trying to prove to others how strong or long lasting your relationship is, rather than just enjoying it,” writer, editor and gender studies major Rochelle Scarlett, says. “One year, two years, ten years- sure, go wild! But why would Barbra from year 11 Biology care that it’s 96 days since your first kiss? Or your cousin’s new wife care about your four months together? Prove to your partner how strong you are, not them.”
Inappropriate photos in bed
“It’s the baffling image that circulates social media time and time again – the girl pulling the sheet up to cover herself while her bloke lies there grinning, smugly, Scarlett says. “Do you want us to congratulate you? Ask you how it was? It’s like inviting 950 acquaintances into your bedroom after you’ve just done it for a high five.” This is just a definite no on so many levels, she adds.
Expensive presents and gifts
“Posting things like this shouts to your followers ‘look how worthwhile I am, my partner thinks I’m worth this amount of money, I’m special’. And trust me, that kind of showing off does not come well received,” Scarlett says. “You wouldn’t flaunt your bank statement online, would you? This kind of behavior often stems from insecurity in the relationship, but that reassurance needs to be found from your partner, not your friends online.”
The fight you’ve just had
The reality is that most fights we have with our partner we get over. “Of course, when it’s happening it seems like the worst thing in the world, but DO NOT post this online,” Scarlett says. “Not only are you letting every single person you’ve ever connected with know the intimate details of your relationship, you are causing them to unconsciously form a negative image of your partner in their minds, even if they haven’t met. For the sake of your relationship and partner’s privacy, do not do this, she adds.
“The abundance of or lack thereof and anything in between is not appropriate fodder for social media. Sex for most couples is a place of intimacy, security and trust,” Love & Relationship coach Jessica Elizabeth Opert, says. “Once we place that in the public realm, we lose the privacy that intimacy requires to exist. Beyond that, social media is a very open source for companies to do research on job candidates, posting this type of highly personal information can end up in prospective employer’s hands.”
Frustration towards your partner
“Individuals in relationships need somewhere to vent, to take the lid off the pressure cooker, especially after a big fight. Choosing social media as your outlet, opens up you and your relationship to public opinion and judgement,” Opert says. “It also can create a dynamic of people (family and mutual friends) taking sides that, even once the argument is resolved between you two, can carry over into your interactions with these people.”
Revealing photos of your partner without consent
“Without consent, it’s definitely a big no no, even if you ‘think’ it’s not that revealing, they should have the ultimate say on how much is too much,” Opert says. “Even with consent, I would urge couples to think about how widely these images can be broadcasted on social media i.e. current [and] prospective employers, sexual criminals, your dear 99-year-old Aunt Betty… she can’t unsee that, ever.”
Social media grace period: Don’t flaunt
“If your relationship is new, avoid posting your couple-photos on social media altogether,” says Dia Hicks, relationship expert and founder and CEO of SwaggerScan. If you have to ask why, then you’ve probably never been in a relationship that was short lived. “So, unless you’ve got an axe to grind with a cheating ex who will see that you’ve moved on with his best friend (which I don’t recommend), flaunting a new relationship on your timeline will draw critics if things don’t work out between you two.” TIP: Before posting that couple-photo of you and your new mate graphically infused into a wine glass, give your new relationship at least 1 month, he adds.
Photos of whereabouts while on a trip or vacation
“Even as you vacate, you should avoid tipping off those with a malicious intent by posting your coordinance to social media,” Hicks says. “For example, burglars (or an unstable ex) can view your notifications on your social media account and see that you and your mate, currently checked into the beautiful Hilton hotel on the Hawaii islands.” At this point you’re too far away to return home, which gives the burglar time to invade your home. Tip: Before heading for Hawaii, you should consider turning off all notifications on “the soesh,” he adds.
Don’t post about your breakup
“Avoid posting breakups or updating your relationship status even when you’re sure it’s over,” Hicks says. “Relationships can have a few twists and turns and breakups can turn into makeups with time.” Tip: Give it a few weeks before the status makeover, he adds.
This is our list of things on “Never Share About Your Relationship on Social Media.” – what does your list include?