Parenting does not come with a manual. Each come with their own parenting style. You learn every day on parenting. In today’s world parenting is more difficult than it was a generation ago.
Our global village has exposed children to technology, co-curricular activities and more information is available to them.
As the children are growing and others are born, parenting demands increase. As a parent, you feel overwhelmed with the demands of your kids and family.
From the demand of life, it reaches a point where a parent feels the need for help on how best to parent their children.
Different Parenting Styles
Below are four parenting styles to study and learn.
#1. Authoritarian Parenting Style.
The joy of a parent is to see their children happy and fruitful. Authoritarian parents force and want their children to follow exact rules. Failure of the child to obey the parent’s commands will lead to punishment.
Pros: A child raised under authoritarian style tend to be obedient and study averagely. As the child grows to become an adulthood, he or she is likely to become a professional in their work.
Cons: The child has to follow them and is not to ask why there rules. Lack of communication to the child from a parent makes it worse. The child grows to be unhappy, lacks social skills and has low self-esteem.
Studies have shown the authoritarian style of parenting evoke bitterness and anger. Thus children grow to be bullied.
#2 Authoritative Parenting.
Authoritative style is considered the most appropriate style of parenting. In authoritative style, there is communication between the child and parent.
Parents explain why rules are to be followed and keeps the child under control. The Parent and child create their set of standards, discuss them and ensure they are understood and established.
Pros: Kids grow to be independent and confident. Children adapt to society moral standards without any difficulty. Children grow with high self-esteem and excellent academic abilities.
Cons: The rule only applies when the child is 1 to 18 years of age. As they grow, they hate being told what to do.
#3.Permissive/ Indulgent Parenting.
Permissive parents don’t set limits for their children. The kids grow understanding there is no punishment for wrong doing they do. Parents using this style want their children to like them.
Pros: Permissive parenting style makes kids think a yes answer means their parents love them. There is less fight because kids know they will always get anything they want unlike authoritative style where there are rules to follow
Cons: Children grow up with no necessary boundaries. The kids lack internal confidence, are unhappy and often feel lonely. They tend to have poor academic performance and fear taking responsibilities.
#4. Uninvolved Parenting Style.
Uninvolved parenting style exposes children to few or no rules to follow. It is a disastrous form of parenting. Children under this style tend to be aggressive and become antisocial.
Pros: Kids grow to be self-reliant and learn that attention and praise are acquired perks. These kids know anything they want, they have to work for it on their own.
Cons: Academically, the child does not perform well. They lack self-control and have low self-esteem. The children tend to be hostile towards others.
Each type of parenting style has its pros and cons. There is no right or wrong parenting. Choose what is best for you and become a better parent.